Infertility Issues

I have blogged about my infertility journey and if you want the long story here are the links to those posts:

You are not alone
My Journey with Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego
Then There were 28
What Happened to the Nine?
The Final Three

The short story is this:

I had one child naturally. Then when trying to conceive (TTC) our second child, I had two different tubal pregnancies, one in each tube, and both tubes ruptured. So in about six months, I lost my ability to conceive naturally. My husband and I prayed and decided in-vitro fertilization (IVF) was the way God was leading us to expand our family. Through that process we had two more children. However I still long for more children. Against my will, God has called me to write about my journey and encourage others walking the same path with me. I’d love to learn more about your journey. Drop me a comment!

The question can a Christian use IVF is a long and winding road. I would never wish IVF on my worst enemy, but I have two wonderful children through the process. The process is fraught with spiritual, moral, ethical, and financial issues. The medications and procedures themselves are physically and emotionally draining. God must be your guide and His Word your compass. There is no one-size fits all answer, but IVF can be done in a life honoring, God glorifying way.

Is IVF right for you?

1. Pray for wisdom and guidance.
2. Make sure both you and your husband are on the same page.
3. Think through contingencies. . . What if one or both of us dies and we have embryos in the freezer? Are we prepared for the financial burden of paying for IVF and embryo storage fees?
4. Decide on a budget and stick to it. Remember you have to feed and clothe children, if you go into debt to have children you may not be able to financially care for them.
5. Consider the physical and emotional toll IVF takes on your or your wife’s body.

I have three articles that address some of these issues on ezinearticles.com. Check them out here:

Infertility Treatments and God
Infertility Encouragement – Comparison is Not Your Friend
In-Vitro Fertilization (IVF) – 10 Things I Didn’t Know Until it Was Too Late

I am praying for you as you consider if IVF is the direction God is leading you.
Blessings,
Angela

P.S. Consider joining my Infertility Support group on Facebook by click here.

194 Responses to Infertility Issues

  1. Bee says:

    Hi Angela,

    I’m having a hard time lately because my husband and I started with ICSI in my natural cycle, which means that we can only have one embryo (when fertilised) and don’t have the problem of the restembryo’s.
    We get 6 rounds by our insurance company.
    We had 3 rounds, the first 2 rounds they weren’t able to catch the egg at the punction, so they failed. The 3 round, they were able to catch the egg and it fertilised and I was pregnant! Unfortunately in 6,5 weeks of pregnancy I got a miscarriage.
    It took time to heal and now I’ve read a lot of IVF/ICSI and I’m doubting.

    I thought we were doing this in a God honoring way, but then I read a response on a website that said that IVF is wrong because of the fact that to get this knowledge about fertility and the treatment, the founders of IVF wasted a lot of embryo’s.
    I’m now struggling with the fact that when I want to use the knowledge of today on fertility treatments, am I insisting in the process of how that knowledge has begotten.

    But we are so close to have a baby and my husband yesterday broke into tears when I told him I’m not sure to continue doing ICSI.

    The only reason I am doubting is fear of God, that he thinks I insist on wasting embryo’s.
    But we don’t do that, but the founders of IVF did.
    On the other hand I could think that God can turn something bad (experiments with embryo’s) into something good (a God honoring way of doing IVF).
    Maybe I am a hypocrite saying that I don’t like the experiments with embryo’s while I’m using a method that is based on it (but with the difference that I’m not ‘wasting’ any embryo’s)

    Have you ever thought about the same issues that I have now?

    • I am not sure how I missed your comment earlier this year. Please forgive me. I have thought about issues like this. I would say that the vast majority of medical advancement took place in less than ideal circumstances. So if we would say no to all vaccines, antibiotics, chemotherapy, etc then we could also say no to IVF. However if we do IVF in a God honoring way, I do not think it could be wrong.

  2. Amber says:

    I feel like in vitro is my only option and I dont want to do anything against Gods Will for my life.

  3. Atiya Smith says:

    Your testimony is so encouraging. I too lost two babies due to tubal pregnancies and also had ruptured tubes and lost both. My husband and I are being led to do IVF. However, I was struggling with the idea and searching for answers as to whether IVF is God’s plan and if it is okay to be a Christian and choose this path. You have encouraged me and given me hope. My God is amazing. Thank you for sharing.

  4. S says:

    I had a tubal pregnancy 3 years ago and lost 1 tube. Few months after losing my tube I had a chemical pregnancy and finally did ivf june 2017 which didn’t go so well. I had only 2 embryos, transferred both and got pregnant but ended up with an empty sac. Not sure what to do next. I believe the tube i have left is damaged and that’s the reason I can’t get pregnant.

  5. Gigi says:

    Hello I am recently battling myself as to whether I should do IVF or let It happen on its own. I am 26 and my husband is 27. We have a son together who is now 9 , had him very young. We always wanted to expand our family once we were older and more stable . We decided 2 years ago to start trying. On April of 2016 I got my positive pregnancy test but need up with a miscarriage, possibly ectopic pregnancy. Had a very hard and terrible experience with that loss. We decided again to start trying after after a few months. With no success we turned to an infertility specialist. I went for many tests and blood work and I’m the end said due to an infection I had 3 years ago It looks like my tubes are blocked and my left ovary is not in its place. He said IVF would be our only option to become parents again. Very heart broken and not knowing if we can afford that or if insurance covered I.t we lost hope. Now few months later I maybe be able to do IVF through insurance coverage. Now that it maybe be possibility I can go with IVF option I’m sacred it’s not in gods will. I believe in miracles and I had prayed for a miracle to conceive naturally on my own. Now I don’t know if I should go with IVF or not. I’m trying to find guidance or a sign that this is what is meant to be because it’s what god wants for me.

  6. Cheryl says:

    My husband died unexpectedly and I had 4 embryos frozen. They cannot be adopted in that case. That thought had never entered my mind before hand.

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