I breathed in quickly and forcefully released the air. Frustration flashed across my selfish heart. I swallowed.
“Let’s think about that later,” the edge in my voice was mostly gone. “I have a paper to write.”
My daughter looked down, then silently nodded, and wandered away to play. I turned back to the bright computer screen.
Later I breathed in again and before I could speak she told me, “When you do that I feel bad.”
Her words pierced my heart. I was not sighing or annoyed with her, but I was frustrated and I let it show. And my precious girl interpreted my frustration as anger and disappointment towards her.
“I am sorry sweetheart, I love you and am proud of you. I don’t want to hurt you. Please forgive me,” I hugged her.
I forget that my actions and words can either be gifts or daggers. They can build-up and encourage my children, friends, coworkers, and husband or they can tear them down.
This does not mean that I don’t sometimes say the difficult things. It just means I say them in love. It means I think about my tone, my sighs, and my body language. I ask what am I communicating and is it what I want to communicate. Sometimes I need ask for forgiveness or explain my behavior. Mostly I need to think before I communicate at all, think and pray.
“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18
Perhaps even reckless tones, sighs, and body language should be included too. May all our communication be drenched in the grace of God.
What are you communicating?
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