Honoring God Honoring Others

Honor has become an important word in my house. In fact it is a word that has changed how I parent, how I think, and how I view my life before God.

The idea started when I read a book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes in You and Your Kids by Turansky and Miller. They give a definition of honor that my kids can understand and now quote:

Honor: Treating others as special, doing more than what is expected, and having a good attitude.

Romans 12:10 tells us to “…Honor one another above yourselves.” We are to honor God (1Cor 6:20). We are to honor our parents (Exodus 20:12).

I discovered that I should allow honor to shape all of my relationships and all of my actions. This was news to me, yes I am slow and stubborn so if this isn’t news to you please disregard or follow my thinking and laugh with me that I am slow… 😉

1. God’s laws should be followed
not as a religious check-list to prove how righteous I am…
not to show how smart I am that I figured out I needed God…
not so that I can get God’s blessings on my life…

We follow God’s laws as a way of honoring Him because He gave us eternal life, life, gifts to use, a purpose, all those gifts I am thankful for and more.

In fact Jesus tells us that, “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching.” (John 14:23)

2. Honor changes how I teach my kids.
I have been teaching my kids to honor each other, honor me and their dad, honor their teachers and friends. I have also been teaching them to honor God. Here is the hook…

I have to show my kids honor in order for them to honor me. Ok this is not revolutionary thinking, but let’s make it real…I need my kids to pick up their rooms. However they are deep in an imaginary world…How do I show them honor? “I will give you five minutes to finish what you are doing and then you need to pick up your room.” Honor. I don’t respond well if I am not being treated with honor, so how can I expect my kids to respond well if I don’t treat them with honor?

3. Honor is the backbone of the “Golden Rule.”

Matt 12:7 says, “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” So loving, honoring, treating others as we want to be treated is the crux it binds up all the things God calls us to do and puts flesh on it. I ask this of myself and of my kids…“Would you want to be treated like that?” Often I have to be even more specific. “If someone said the same thing to you would you like it?” Ouch the words sting but my calloused heart starts to heal. It starts to bleed for the people I have wounded and it is then that I can ask forgiveness. It is in that moment that I can confess my sins and do what I can to reconcile.

What are your thoughts on honoring others? I hope you stick around and discuss this topic with me!

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8 Responses to Honoring God Honoring Others

  1. D2 says:

    I’m not sure, ever since I can remember I’ve known to honor my parents. It’s ingrained in Asian culture to honor your elders.

    Are you familiar with honorifics? They aren’t important in Western culture, but in Eastern culture you can be considered very rude if you use the wrong honorifics. In fact, I know my uncles and aunts by their honorific rather than their given name.

    And so for me, using the Lord’s name in vain hurts me a lot. I know I’m affected by the culture of the world when I let my tongue slip up. So one aspect of honoring God is calling on His name correctly. It sounds simple, but in our times of anger and grief we are not always so charitable.

    • Daniel I had never heard of honorifics before. That is really a neat way of showing honor. I think Western culture has so often glorified rebellion (our country started with one essentially) that we have lost the art of honor.

      I am quite affected when people misuse God’s name as well, but that is because growing up I never heard my parents speak that way. It would be a complete shock to hear it now and it offends me.

      Thanks for the culture lesson. Blessings to you.

  2. smithlaurel says:

    Ang, I’m very interested in this book now. I love the definition of honor and the idea of teaching it to our children both in word and by example. I’ve struggled to find the right words when talking to my children about how they treat each other. Honor sums it it up. Thank you.

  3. Angela Freeman says:

    Honor, as a result of you teaching our MOPS group about the book has helped to change our family so much for the better! I keep feeling like I need to get it out and re-read certain parts to keep them fresh in our minds. Thanks so much for sharing these wonderful truths!!

  4. Amy Schaffner says:

    *closing computer, heading to bookstore to buy this book……*

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